Does Relationship Work for You?

    In some of my circles- the distinctive phrase “Relationship doesn’t work for me” is commonly and frequently used.  I think it’s interesting to see Relationship as some sort of entity that is supposed to be had or not had in a working sense - that it’s supposed to do something for you.  

   What is that?  What are people expecting Relationship to do for them?  Is it supposed to bring something that is predetermined?  Do I give myself everything that I’m seeking from Relationship?  (Wow, that’s an idea!)  And if I’ve already given to myself, isn’t Relationship an added bonus?  

    When Relationship does work for you, what does that look like? Isn’t this a refreshing question? Maybe Relationship doesn’t like to work when you expect it to do all of the work.  So, what are you willing to contribute to Relationship?  

    Since I am sought after to evaluate hands, energies, and facilitate or coach as requested, I know many spiritually and not-so-spiritually inclined people of various faiths, modalities and points of view.  Be that as it may, I’m pretty sure that most would agree that a statement such as “Relationship doesn’t work for me” is something to be excluded from one’s daily affirmation repertoire.

    I get it, you know.  Acknowledge that the relationships you have or have been creating aren’t working for you if you keep finding yourself miserable in these relationships. Still, jumping from this acknowledgement to “Relationship doesn’t work for me” is quite the leap.  What if you are not working for you?

    I know Relationship (in a traditional sense) may not always work out for me (in an enjoyable sense).  But after much self reflection in regards to my past relationships, I have acknowledged that each relationship I have had, has always turned out in the ways that I have allowed. Was this really Relationship not working for me?  Or was this me creating -or not creating what works for me?  

    It seems to me that Relationship has been a wonderful contribution throughout my life.

    I’m willing to learn from Relationship- learn what I like, learn what I enjoy, learn what other people have that I haven’t even considered including in my life.  And I’m willing to learn all of this in an intimate way.  

        I’m not solely talking about a relationship with sex in it.  I’m speaking of intimate Relationship which includes vulnerability and presence, kindness and enjoyment.  I have this with many friends, and I have to say that it TOTALLY works for me.  

    Now let’s throw in some intimately vulnerable, present, kind, enjoyable communion in the bedroom into the mix.  I am willing to allow this kind of relationship to work for me as well.  Yes, I will have that.  

    Tell me that you won’t have that!  I double-dog dare you to say that doesn’t work for you!

    What about having an intimately vulnerable, present, kind, enjoyable relationship with Money?  Oh yes!  I will have that!  What can I contribute to that relationship?

    I have on occasion, been discounted by others as a viable option for personal relationship.  Pick a reason: smart, independent, direct, aware, intimidating, too much to handle...  Hell Yeah!  I’m all of these things and more! I will also invite all of these things and more into another’s life.  This is my contribution to personal relationship. 

    Relationship has many facets, time being one of them.  I’m willing to create relationships that work for me. I’m willing to open up to something new, and enjoy the Heaven out of it, be it for 10 years or 10 seconds.

    What are the ways you are willing to invite Relationship to work for you?

ABOUT RANN
The Immortal Rann Goldrich is a facilitator of happiness with decades of experience as a meditation coach, teacher, and facilitator of private and group sessions.